What My Father Gave Me

Honor your father and your mother (which is the first commandment with a promise) so that it may be well with you, and that you may have long life on the earth.—Ephesians 6:2-3

This Father’s Day is my first without my father in this world. As I’ve shared before, ours was a complicated relationship, largely because of people who kept us apart (more…)

Those Voices in Your Head

Do not fear, for I am with you. Do not be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen and help you; I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.
–  Isaiah 41:10

Most of us would run from someone who admitted having voices in her head. But in reality, most of us do – just not the kind that tell (more…)

Your Guide to Surviving Family Dysfunction over the Holidays

It’s almost Thanksgiving, which means tables filled with turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes with gravy, cranberries and pumpkin pie. Oh, and let’s not forget heaping sides of criticism, cattiness and unresolved conflict. Hail, hail; the dysfunctional gang’s all here!

I know what it is to be haunted by the Ghost of Holidays Past. I’ve washed down my Thanksgiving turkey with salty tears. I’ve (more…)

Love’s Evil Twin

“I love you because you make me feel complete.”
“And I love you because you make me feel like the most special person in the world.”
Oh, ain’t love grand?
Trouble is, what most people think of as love isn’t really love at all. It’s selfish because it’s self-gratifying and self-glorifying and, therefore, self-centered. Contrast that with God’s concept of love, which involved giving (more…)