When a Relationship Ends

For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.—Romans 8:38-39

The end of a marriage or another long-term relationship can feel so final. It feels like the end of life as we know it. The end of dreams as we’ve dreamed them. The end of reality as we’ve lived it. The end of all things familiar and all things comfortable, even if there had been no true comfort in the familiar.

The failure of a long-term relationship, such as in divorce, mentally translates into our own failure. We are, after all, the nurturers, the ones who give fully of ourselves in meeting the needs of others. For this reason, we often measure ourselves by the health of our relationships. And when they fail, we feel unloved and unworthy to be loved. Depression can set in—and sometimes even desperation.

What do we make of our past? And what do we make of our future?

Perhaps we may own some blame for the failure of our relationships. Perhaps, at our worst, we were just weak and allowed ourselves to be exploited or abused. But failure is not what we should see when we look into the mirror. We should see women who are dearly beloved by God.

He doesn’t see us in the light of our failures. He sees those who have placed their faith in Him through the righteousness of Christ (2 Corinthians 5:21). He sees women to whom He gives new mercies each day (Lamentations 3:22-23).

He sees precious daughters whom He loves with an unshakeable, unchangeable, undying, unrelenting love.

Do you remember how it felt, way back when, when you realized your love was reciprocated? What a privilege. What a joy. What a rush. What a life-changer.

But we fail to consider what a privilege it is to be loved by the God of the universe, the Great I Am, the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. He is no ordinary suitor, and HIs love is no small or fleeting thing.

Try to get your head around this kind of love. Try to get your heart around it.

For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of His glory He may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.—Ephesians 3:14-19

May our faithful Healer bind up the wounds of your broken heart and help you make a fresh start with Him at the helm. He is the expert at making all things new, including you.